
“i’ll take care of it”
The hero child’s job is to make the family look good. They excel at school. They typically have a high GPA. They’re…
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Being a beginner sucks
Most times when I try something new – or in the language of psychodrama – I step into a new role, I’m…
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“I’m JUst trying to help”
When I think of the role of the Chief Enabler in an addicted family system, the phrase, “I’m just trying to help,”…
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“If I could stop, I would”
Addiction is a disease. Period. It is recognized as a disease by the American Medical Association, the American Psychological Association, and associations…
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Are you fighting fair?
As a follow up to my last post on conflict, let’s look at fair vs. unfair fighting.We’ll explore the three main ways…
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Got Conflict?
Conflict in any relationship is inevitable, and frankly, if you’re not having it from time to time, then it’s not an honest…
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Good Group therapy
I read a Substack post this week by Dr. Pria Alpern, about a Wall Street Journal op-ed by therapist, Jonathan Alpert, in response to the…
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“If you don’t reveal yourself, people will invent you.”
We don’t mean to do it. It happens automatically. When we meet someone we don’t know, we make assumptions. We make up…
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Orient to pleasure
Given all that’s going on in the world, our nervous systems are activated, and with good reason. Many of us are have…
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